November 19 is celebrated as International Men’s Day (yup, I bet y’all didn’t know that). I love men, everyone knows that and if you didn't, now you do -- REAL, STRONG, Men.
There is something about the masculinity of a man that warms my heart and the simple pleasures of seeing how a REAL MAN operates will forever be my weakness. Seeing a man put himself together, beholding the strength of his hands as he labors, yet feeling the gentleness of his touch. The richness of the depth in a man’s voice, the authenticity of a man’s laughter, the natural protection felt from his hug and the security that provides, I could go on and on because there are so many little things to appreciate about our men.
“Men face a series of health challenges that need to be addressed in order to have our communities function to their fullest potential.”
Current issues men face:
men have a suicide rate 3 times higher than women
1 in 3 men have been the victims of domestic violence
men on average die 4-5 years before women
men are nearly twice as likely to suffer from lung cancer than women
men are nearly twice as likely to suffer from heart disease than women
In reality, good men are almost extinct but they do exist. The truth as I see it is, the enemy is after our men – the husbands, the boyfriends, the sons. He entraps us women by tearing down the men in our lives. How do we get them back? How do we win our men back to the right path?
I challenge you women, come with me on a journey by valuing them.
Value the Men in your life. Chocolate Factory!
I have never been a man, never spent a day as a man, will never be one and there is a statement that you may never hear coming from a man, but as I observe the men I am around and those in my life, it is REAL HARD to be a man. Research has shown that because of the physical and psychological make up of a man, they age quicker and die faster than women do. But aside from that, we lose our men today through violence, drugs and identity crisis – our men don’t know who they are anymore. Sigh. There aren’t many older men to coach the younger men because they are missing in action or dead...
Many of us women need to start seeing the King in our men, and stop nurturing the kid in them. Some men will never grow up because they don’t have the right women in their lives (be it mother, girlfriend or wife) to push them to greatness. Most women have never heard a man talk, I mean really talk. We are busy with dictating. Women have heard men moan, preach, shout at games, cuss, but not talk.
Most of the things women learn about men are from other women: in the hairdressing shops, from the plethora of reading material written by other women (who sometimes don’t even have a man). We need to nurture our men to speak so that we can learn how best to relate to them. Stop to listen. So apart from having the physical fight, there is the societal and psychological fight. Mother’s Day comes and you hear about it two months before Father’s Day? Psssh! It comes and goes so fast. Whilst our men are devalued and not feeling much worth.
Let’s change that, appreciate the little things they do. No matter how advanced we get in life, men have an important place as ordained by God. Regardless of how good a single mother is, her children will never learn some things from her. There are some crucial lessons only a man can teach. Men are important!
You have a good man? Cherish him. Show him that he is valued. Do not give him the place of man in your live then take back his power by your actions. No matter how we view it, they are still the head. Speak life over them and in them. They NEED IT!
And to our men, when you find a woman who makes you her King, make it safe for her to uphold you as such.
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